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Mystery

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

A Meditation

Love is God.

Loving is us.

Are we the image and likeness?

To know who we are – image?

To be who we are – likeness?

A very slow process of awakening.

Waking up to the delusion of twoness.

Living as the reality of oneness.

Until we become aware of the reality of unity.

Meanwhile we foster it:

            With all our mind;

            With all our heart;

            With all our strength.

And we do this through conscious acts of anonymous helping; in the beginning contrary to our inclination; over time, organically becoming an orientation of compassionate service; one with Love Loving.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Forgiveness

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

A Meditation

Breathe - in and out - experience my soft belly.

Breathe - in and out - open my heart to the healing Spirit.

Breathe - in and out - remember the hurts of my history.

Remember the ways I have hurt others, how I have been insensitive to their feelings, betrayed their trust, disappointed them, caused them suffering.

Be willing to feel regret - to have remorse - to make a commitment to change my behavior.

Remember the ways I have harmed myself, been unfaithful to the real me - what I wanted and didn't want for my life - how I betrayed my inner voice.

Be willing to feel sorrow - to weep for the losses - to resolve to embrace personal integrity.

Remember the ways I have been wounded by others; these events did happen; I was hurt.

Be willing to feel anguish - to respond with compassion for their personal pain - to suspect their history that brought them to such hurtful actions.

Be willing to decide to release my feelings about them and these events - to let the past be the past and vow to live the present in loving-kindness.

Grieve my history of hurting and being hurt.

Feel the truth of the pain.

Mourn my history of losses.

Touch the pain to honor it; it is my personal journey of helplessness and hopelessness.

Feel my breath, feel my pain, feel my tears - be present and aware of my vulnerability.

Gently breathe and feel the sorrow; embrace it with tenderness and compassion.

Trust my breath, trust my feelings, trust this process, trust my life.

Resolve to let go of my entire history and to be vulnerable to my present.

Resolve to remember so that I don't repeat.

Resolve to accept reality as it is.

Resolve to hold an open heart to hear the invitation to be present to my self.

Resolve to hold an attitude of compassion for others. All of us are imperfect humans, awkwardly doing the best we can.

Hold the intention of harmony to replace hurt with healing.

Hold the intention of a bridge of tenderness to the separated.

Hold the intention of tender love for the healing and transformation of all.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Four Questions

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

We need to be empty in order to receive:

 

  1. What fills me now? Does holding that make me miserable?
  2. What prevents me from letting go? Am I willing to live with it in a different way?
  3. How do I empty my self of all that bothers me so that I can get into the flow of life? Do I experience that resistance to change is the source of my suffering? What would it look like if I changed? What would it look like if I stopped resisting?
  4. What is the one thing necessary that I should fill myself with to satisfy me while at the same time leaves me open for more?

Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Delusional Seeing

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Delusional Seeing

How we see determines what we see.

The ego’s agenda is narcissistic self-development, protection and survival. We reframe reality to reflect the picture we want to see. We look through the lens of our beliefs and create our reality. No wonder we have problems!

Our ego is a construct of our energies for survival:

            To have life itself;
            To have pleasure;
            To have meaning;

When it is focused totally on me it is the construct of my false self – insuring survival but isolation and unhappiness.

This ego is the enemy within; the devil that defeats us.

In the beginning, it is a natural and necessary development of our personal evolution. However, if not transcended, it becomes a false persona that prevents the revelation of our true self.

The truth will set you free; but first it will annoy you!


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Co-Creating Our Lives

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Co-Creating Our Lives

Vocabulary, what is said to us, positive and negative, forms us; the negative that we repeat to ourselves deforms us. Thus, we co-create our life:

            Drop good and bad – they judge and deform.

Use:

                        appropriate and inappropriate

                        healthy and unhealthy

                        helpful and not helpful

                        useful and not useful

            They evaluate, inform, and transform.

Be conscious of self-talk vocabulary. Use words that name who you are and how you want to be!

 

Reality

Reality is what it is. Our belief about reality does not change or direct reality. There are natural laws of physical evolution, for instance, gravity. There are spiritual laws of an unfolding Universe, for instance, humility – a sense of true perspective: we are finite, not infinite.

To act contrary to these laws is to act contrary to Nature and the natural flow of Energy. This creates chaos. To choose actions that are in alignment with the Energy flow creates harmony. Our work is to become conscious of these spiritual principles and to conform – become one in the flow of Energy.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Inventory of Your Spiritual Condition

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Ask yourself these vital questions:

Relationship with Mystery
  • What is your current brokenness? In what ways do you experience the bedevilments of doing what you don’t what to do and not doing what you want to do?
  • What do you actually believe about God? How do you behave in light of what you believe – or what you believe you believe? Are you really a practical agnostic?
  • What relationship do you yearn to have (need to have) with the Mystery?

 

Relationship with self
  • What are the obstacles to your relationship to Mystery?
  • Are you willing to reveal them all – every secret?
  • Are you willing to be changed?

 

Relationship with others
  • How have you damaged the people in your history?
  • Are you willing to change your behavior and repair all the damage?
  • Are there people in your life who remain unforgiven? Have you forgiven yourself?

 

Way of life
  • Are you awake to being disturbed?
  • Are you consistent in your efforts to have your consciousness improved?
  • Do you have an attitude of love and tolerance; are you involved in compassionate service? Are you committed to a life of harmony with spiritual principles?

Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Principles for Walking This Path

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Our Way of Life

1. I am not the center of life.

2. I am the center of my life.

3. Don’t take life personally.

4. Do take reality as it is.

5. I am responsible for my:
Perceptions,
Emotions,
Behaviors.

6. I am not responsible for your:
Perceptions,
Emotions,
Behaviors.

7. When I don’t change my actions, my life stays the same, no matter what I think or feel.

8. When I do change my actions, my thinking and feeling change – then my entire life changes.

9. This present moment will pass.

10. This present moment is the only time I can actually live.

11. I am really going to die!

12. I need to ask: Am I really going to live?

13. There is no one coming to save me.

14. I am the one I am waiting for!


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Forgiveness is a Process Not an Event

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

A forgiving person has no past. An unforgiving person has no future.

 What is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is Not to…

  • Condone
  • Forget
  • Tolerate
  • Ignore
  • Approve
  • Excuse
  • Minimize
  • Pardon
  • Deny
  • Absolve
  • Reconcile
  • Invite to hurt again
  • Surrender justice

 

Forgiveness Is a Decision to not

  • Retaliate
  • Exact revenge
  • Seek compensation
  • Judge

 

Forgiveness Is a Decision to

  • Release them
  • Release ourselves
  • Be released

 

What is the process?

 

Accept the facts: Betrayal = it did happen; I was hurt.

 

Open your mind, memories and heart to remember the hurts, the wounds, where and when you have been let down, dishonored, abused, lied to, cheated on; diminished in spirit and emotion; diminished physically and financially.

 

Bring to your mind, to your memory and to your heart a picture of the betrayer; your father, mother, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, relative, friend; have you been betrayed by your school, church, the judicial system, healthcare system, legal system, the government?

 

This is the reality—it did happen—we have been betrayed, hurt and deeply wounded. Name it and accept it. It’s tragic and it’s true.

 

Accept the facts of the process of forgiveness: I can be healed from these soul wounds. The process begins when I decide to release them and myself; to release my current feelings about the events of my past.

 

To forgive is not to condone or excuse the behavior. What was done was wrong.

 

To forgive is not to pardon—that’s not mine to give—I don’t have the power to absolve.

 

To forgive is not to forget. I am saddened by the memory, must grieve the event, and resolve to never let it happen again.

 

To forgive is to release from debt; to release from the demand for retribution or retaliation.

 

To forgive is to surrender the right to get even; to release my current feelings about my past “rights”.

 

The reality is that as long as I hold onto these hurts, they possess me; actually, they poison me physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

 

To forgive them is to take responsibility for my part, which may only be that I have been holding onto these memories, these feelings, and have allowed them to continue to devastate my physical, emotional and spiritual life. Am I willing to release my feelings about the event?

 

To forgive myself is to experience my regret, remorse, sorrow for who I’ve been, how I’ve acted, and how I hurt others – and to commit to change my behavior. Am I willing to release my feelings and assume a new attitude?

 

How long am I going to carry these wounds? How long am I going to be shackled to this garbage barge of memories of hurt, anger and shame?

 

All spiritual traditions believe that I am forgiven just to the extent that I forgive; all spiritual traditions believe that I am released just to the extent I release others.

 

Look at my own brokenness—the many betrayals for which I have been responsible. Look at my motives, my role, in the events in which I find myself betrayed. Where was I selfish, self-seeking, dishonest, angry or afraid?

 

In light of my own brokenness, look at their brokenness—see them like me—those that hurt me are themselves hurt, fearful, wounded, sick people—human beings twisted by their own personal histories.

 

Embrace compassion both for them and for my self: they have suffered; they act out of their suffering. I have suffered; I act out of my suffering.

 

I am a weak, wounded human being, full of defects—attempting to survive the difficulties of life and find a little security, peace and happiness.

 

Forgiveness is the release of others and my feelings about the harm they have caused me. The truth is forgiveness often follows deep acceptance of and repentance for my own harmful actions to others.

 

I am powerless to name and accept the truth of the harm I have done; I am likewise powerless to release the memories of the hurt others have done to me.

 

Despite this powerlessness, I have a responsibility to decide not to live in the past. I have a responsibility to decide to live in the present, to accept reality as it is – not as it “should be” or as I want it.

 

Am I willing to embrace the process and release them?

 

Am I willing to pray for the power:

  • To ask for knowledge of the truth?
  • To ask for freedom from the bondage of my own history?
  • To wish for the spiritual healing of those persons, institutions, or events that have harmed me?
  • To forgive myself—to let go of self condemnation, morbid reflection, remorse, my temper, my addictions, my vanities, my arrogance, my smugness, my victim stance; to let go of my failures, to do what I must and become who I really am?
  • To change my attitude and my actions?

 

Am I willing to pray for the power:

  • To love them as I want to be loved?
  • To see the world and the people in it from God’s point of view? To see and accept reality? To identify and release my “unenforceable rules”?
  • To act better than I feel?

 

Invite the healing Spirit of the Universe:

  • Into my mind—that my memories may be healed
  • Into my heart—that my feelings may be healed
  • Into my soul—that my human spirit may be healed and flourish

 

Healing Spirit of the Universe:

  • Enable me to be willing to let go and to forgive: to release and to be released
  • Enable me to be willing to be restored to sanity – to healthy thinking
  • Enable me to be willing to be taken to a place of serenity – to accept reality as it is
  • Enable me to be willing to find freedom – to act with the intention of compassion and loving kindness

 

Holy Spirit, breathe Your Spirit into me.

  • Enable me to live from a vision of being tender love and a witness to the benefits of hope.

 


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Alcoholics Anonymous is NOT about not drinking!

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

AA is the Fellowship that developed around a community concerned with problems of uncontrollable and excessive drinking. Yes: that is the initiating problem.

However, this community discovered that the solution was not to “stop drinking.” The solution was for the individual to seek and find a power/Power other than one’s self that would provide the effective intervention resulting in abstinence from alcohol. The AA Fellowship calls this a Spiritual Awakening/Experience which results from the rigorous personal application of a precise behavioral methodology – a Twelve Step course of action. This process precipitates a radical transformation of each person’s thinking patterns, feeling reactions, and especially manifests in a change in their actual behaviors.

The goal of AA is not sobriety – that is a by-product. The actual product/goal of AA is for each person to live a fully integrated empowered human life by:

1. Improving their personal consciousness through a consistent daily practice of inventory and meditation;
2. Enlarging their personal compassion through living their lives based on universal principles resulting in a deep commitment to helping others.

Each of the various Twelve Step cultures are NOT about their specific addiction. They are about introducing and fostering a “way of life” for each individual so they can be the best person they can be. Thus, they are positively connected to each other and the entire human community. The world is a better place for them having been a citizen of it. They leave a legacy of awakened people to enthusiastically do likewise.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Intentional Consciousness – A Daily Practice

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

What is the message of the “wee small voice”?

What does it mean?

What is my prior experience?

What is the guidance; what are the implications for me?

What are the suggested principles as guidelines for my attitude and/or action?

What is the suggested change in my attitude and/or action?

What is the personal invitation to me today?

What is my specific response/commitment today?

How will I be accountable for this commitment?

Do I acknowledge the formula for my daily growth in understanding and effectiveness?           

            AWARENESS

            ACCEPTANCE          

            ADJUSTMENT          


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.