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Mystery

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

A Meditation

Love is God.

Loving is us.

Are we the image and likeness?

To know who we are – image?

To be who we are – likeness?

A very slow process of awakening.

Waking up to the delusion of twoness.

Living as the reality of oneness.

Until we become aware of the reality of unity.

Meanwhile we foster it:

            With all our mind;

            With all our heart;

            With all our strength.

And we do this through conscious acts of anonymous helping; in the beginning contrary to our inclination; over time, organically becoming an orientation of compassionate service; one with Love Loving.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Forgiveness

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

A Meditation

Breathe - in and out - experience my soft belly.

Breathe - in and out - open my heart to the healing Spirit.

Breathe - in and out - remember the hurts of my history.

Remember the ways I have hurt others, how I have been insensitive to their feelings, betrayed their trust, disappointed them, caused them suffering.

Be willing to feel regret - to have remorse - to make a commitment to change my behavior.

Remember the ways I have harmed myself, been unfaithful to the real me - what I wanted and didn't want for my life - how I betrayed my inner voice.

Be willing to feel sorrow - to weep for the losses - to resolve to embrace personal integrity.

Remember the ways I have been wounded by others; these events did happen; I was hurt.

Be willing to feel anguish - to respond with compassion for their personal pain - to suspect their history that brought them to such hurtful actions.

Be willing to decide to release my feelings about them and these events - to let the past be the past and vow to live the present in loving-kindness.

Grieve my history of hurting and being hurt.

Feel the truth of the pain.

Mourn my history of losses.

Touch the pain to honor it; it is my personal journey of helplessness and hopelessness.

Feel my breath, feel my pain, feel my tears - be present and aware of my vulnerability.

Gently breathe and feel the sorrow; embrace it with tenderness and compassion.

Trust my breath, trust my feelings, trust this process, trust my life.

Resolve to let go of my entire history and to be vulnerable to my present.

Resolve to remember so that I don't repeat.

Resolve to accept reality as it is.

Resolve to hold an open heart to hear the invitation to be present to my self.

Resolve to hold an attitude of compassion for others. All of us are imperfect humans, awkwardly doing the best we can.

Hold the intention of harmony to replace hurt with healing.

Hold the intention of a bridge of tenderness to the separated.

Hold the intention of tender love for the healing and transformation of all.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Four Questions

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

We need to be empty in order to receive:

 

  1. What fills me now? Does holding that make me miserable?
  2. What prevents me from letting go? Am I willing to live with it in a different way?
  3. How do I empty my self of all that bothers me so that I can get into the flow of life? Do I experience that resistance to change is the source of my suffering? What would it look like if I changed? What would it look like if I stopped resisting?
  4. What is the one thing necessary that I should fill myself with to satisfy me while at the same time leaves me open for more?

Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Delusional Seeing

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Delusional Seeing

How we see determines what we see.

The ego’s agenda is narcissistic self-development, protection and survival. We reframe reality to reflect the picture we want to see. We look through the lens of our beliefs and create our reality. No wonder we have problems!

Our ego is a construct of our energies for survival:

            To have life itself;
            To have pleasure;
            To have meaning;

When it is focused totally on me it is the construct of my false self – insuring survival but isolation and unhappiness.

This ego is the enemy within; the devil that defeats us.

In the beginning, it is a natural and necessary development of our personal evolution. However, if not transcended, it becomes a false persona that prevents the revelation of our true self.

The truth will set you free; but first it will annoy you!


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Co-Creating Our Lives

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Co-Creating Our Lives

Vocabulary, what is said to us, positive and negative, forms us; the negative that we repeat to ourselves deforms us. Thus, we co-create our life:

            Drop good and bad – they judge and deform.

Use:

                        appropriate and inappropriate

                        healthy and unhealthy

                        helpful and not helpful

                        useful and not useful

            They evaluate, inform, and transform.

Be conscious of self-talk vocabulary. Use words that name who you are and how you want to be!

 

Reality

Reality is what it is. Our belief about reality does not change or direct reality. There are natural laws of physical evolution, for instance, gravity. There are spiritual laws of an unfolding Universe, for instance, humility – a sense of true perspective: we are finite, not infinite.

To act contrary to these laws is to act contrary to Nature and the natural flow of Energy. This creates chaos. To choose actions that are in alignment with the Energy flow creates harmony. Our work is to become conscious of these spiritual principles and to conform – become one in the flow of Energy.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

I am Shadow and Light

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

I am Shadow and Light

By running from our shadows, we feed our inner darkness.
We reduce and eliminate our shadows by moving into and becoming light.
I am a product of Love and therefore in my very nature I am love.
When I am true to my very nature, I am love loving.

I sit in the Light becoming light.
My shadows begin to wane and then disappear.
As I become Light I am a channel of Light.
Giving light to those around me helps the shadows to wane and disappear. Being a conduit of Light allows them to become light – to become truly who they are: Love loving.

                        Reflections while reading Tara Brach “Radical Acceptance”


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Becoming My True Self

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Becoming My True Self

Self. This is usually a process that doesn’t evolve gracefully. This very awkwardness gives and reinforces the basic humility that continually invites the Grace to continue.The “separate” self is the false self. Separation is the delusion. In that delusion, the self, as separate, constructs a definition, an image, a reality. The components of that definition are both acquired from our nature, our genetics, as well as absorbed from our nurture, our specific culture.

Through either the experience of suffering or the invitation of love a hint of the True Self is glimpsed and then eagerly yearned for and sought. This is the spark that begins the journey of the dissolution of the false self through identification that it is and what it is: a frantic do-ing that prevents our conscious be-ing.

This spark fanned, creates a fire that burns away the mask, the persona, that hides us from our True Self.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Power of Belief

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Power of Belief

My false self is an unconscious social construct. I define myself through an amalgam of survival reactions to parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, neighbors, teachers, ministers, employers, etc. From these reactions I create a story about who I am, who they are, and how the world works. This is my “belief” system – the lenses through which I look and interpret all reality. I don’t see reality as it is, I see reality as I am. I can only see my projection on reality. My beliefs color how and what I see. This determines all my reactions: how I think, feel and behave.

My story becomes my life style and my prison.

I am asleep, dreaming that I’m awake.
I am truly in bondage – fettered to my beliefs. But I don’t know that I don’t know; I can’t see that I can’t see.

For each of us there are many moments of Grace that stimulate and support our willingness to respond to the invitation of Grace. This mysterious meeting of Grace and willingness is the alchemy that begins to transform our bondage into freedom.


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Our Thermostat, False vs. True Self

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Our Thermostat

Our internal thermostat is a constellation of beliefs:

1. our beliefs define our “normal”
2. our beliefs defend our “reality”
3. our beliefs determine our “destiny”

We don’t see reality as it is; we see reality as we are!

At all times we function to create and maintain our comfort.

We are a constellation of habits: what we practice, we become.

False vs True Self

False self is a projection of our created self image and our attachment to it.

ASK:     Who do I pretend to be?

            … an idealized self?

            … an eternal self?

            … a superior self?

            … an autonomous self?

 

True self is an acceptance of the reality of our creation and the humility that acceptance generates.

ASK:     Who am I really?

            … my daily self?

            … my mortal self?     

            … my vulnerable self?

            … my interdependent self?

 

The power is in asking the correct questions!


Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.

Inventory of Your Spiritual Condition

Author: Herb K.

Rancho Palos Verdes, CA
herbk12@hotmail.com
www.herbk.com

Ask yourself these vital questions:

Relationship with Mystery
  • What is your current brokenness? In what ways do you experience the bedevilments of doing what you don’t what to do and not doing what you want to do?
  • What do you actually believe about God? How do you behave in light of what you believe – or what you believe you believe? Are you really a practical agnostic?
  • What relationship do you yearn to have (need to have) with the Mystery?

 

Relationship with self
  • What are the obstacles to your relationship to Mystery?
  • Are you willing to reveal them all – every secret?
  • Are you willing to be changed?

 

Relationship with others
  • How have you damaged the people in your history?
  • Are you willing to change your behavior and repair all the damage?
  • Are there people in your life who remain unforgiven? Have you forgiven yourself?

 

Way of life
  • Are you awake to being disturbed?
  • Are you consistent in your efforts to have your consciousness improved?
  • Do you have an attitude of love and tolerance; are you involved in compassionate service? Are you committed to a life of harmony with spiritual principles?

Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.

He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.