Guilt is about my behavior; what I do.
Shame is about me as a person, my very being; who I am.
Healthy Guilt: an uncomfortable feeling generated by my transgression of my internal values or of my cultural norms.
Healthy Shame: an uncomfortable feeling of embarrassment for a personal or social mistake or inappropriate behavior, e.g., offending someone.
Unhealthy Guilt: a negative feeling about our behavior coming from or imposed on us from an external source or abuse.
Unhealthy Shame: a negative feeling about our person, our very being.
I make mistakes; I am not a mistake.
I have feelings; I am not my feelings.
Does my story name me?
Am I trapped in my story?
Do my feelings tyrannize me?
Have I made my story my lifestyle?
Healing happens when:
I accept reality as it is;
I adjust to reality;
I take action to change what I can.
I decide to be in harmony with Life’s flow.
I write my own story!
Herb K. was given the gift of freedom from alcohol February 21, 1984. As a result of the application of the Twelve Steps as contained precisely in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, he experienced a profound spiritual awakening in 1988. Since then he has been very involved in carrying the message of recovery through presentations, facilitating workshops, and leading retreats.
He has authored three books to help people access the instructions and confirm the actual process contained in the Big Book for experiencing a spiritual awakening: Practicing the Here and Now: Being Intentional with Step 11 (2017), Twelve-Step Guide to Using the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book (2004) and Twelve Steps to Spiritual Awakening: Enlightenment for Everyone (2010). His books are available on Amazon and other locations.